Tuesday, September 15, 2015

blogging 103




I wrote two other posts on this, here and here .  It's actually really useful for me too :)

Y'all, I started on this post immediately after encountering problem number 1.

remove any safe guards that prevent people from commenting |

I know I said it in my first post , but I want to stress this again.  This is what I encountered on someone's blog page (I don't know if it was wordpress or them), either way I gave up after the 10th try.  Really annoying.

I don't want to subscribe to an email listserv |
I've commented on a lot of wordpress blogs lately, and immediately after I've commented I get an email saying confirm your subscription to blah blah blah.  I have too many emails as it is.  I don't want to subscribe at all...  Please don't force it on me.

pop up subscribe buttons |
I hate these.  Please don't force it into my face to subscribe to your page...I will subscribe if I like your blog, trust me.

consider buying your own domain |
I did do this.  it was $12 for a year.  I bought it back in March when I started getting serious about blogging.  It was nice to not have the .blogspot after my name.  And I felt a more legit blogger (I needed that)

consider adding a related posts |
There are several, Engageya , Linkwithin , Outbrain , Limk .  I prefer outbrain, but linkwithin is the simplest.  If you hadn't noticed, I'm still wavering on which is best for me by having both.  outbrain, engageya, limk are probably the better ones for finding out which of your posts are popular and which ones are garnering the most interest.  I actually don't look at my outbrain stats too much.

Linkwithin: easy to install, but no data feedback, if you've bought your domain, make sure to add the blogspot back in. sundayswithsophie.blogspot.com. I forgot this, and it took me forever to figure out why linkwithin wasn't showing up.

maybe add google analytics |
I'm still struggling with completely understanding this, but the things I do understand are, bounce rate, sessions, page views, new visitors, visitors, etc.  There are tutorials on how to add google analytics along with understanding the all of the different sections of google analytics.

have a contact me page/widget |
While I do have a mail button on the front of page, having something in the header is really important because it helps people see that easily.  and some people don't want to have to open up their native mail app to email me.  They can easily type into the form.

add an image map |
If you have time, consider adding one.  You can see mine here . I thought about writing a tutorial on it, but thought people would be bored too pieces by reading it, so I didn't add one.  But if you do want to know how it was made, let me know.

labels |
When I first started using my blog, I got a little crazy with the labels, but use them sparingly.  Try to make them more as general categories.  Or if you only have one post with that label, have a label for it.  Truth be told, I don't look through the billion categories, I use the search bar if it's on the blog.  Some people actually have really pretty labels for their blog (in more of a picture form).

confusing layouts |
There are so many gorgeous layouts but they're sometimes confusing.  Several of hte blogs I read are more in a picture form, where it doesn't clearly label the date, and I'm kind of lost on where the newest post is.

Sunday, September 13, 2015

blogger recognition award


So the wonderful Julie over at Say Yes to Happy nominated me for this award.  I love the fact that it's really two girls continuing this blog, lately it's Julie who's been posting, but Vi also does.

So what are the rules?
Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog
Write a post to show your award
Attach the award to the post
Give a brief story of how your blog started
Give a piece of advice or two to new bloggers
Select 15 other blogs you want to give the award to.
Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them & provide a link to the award post you created (You cannot nominate yourself or the person who has nominated you)

How the blog started |
I've been a writer ever since I can remember, but didn't make the jump to create a blog until years later.  When I finally started a blog it was because I was pregnant, you can read here , I started at 16 weeks on this blog, but we didn't actually announce until I was 18 weeks.  And while I religiously posted on pregnancy, it wasn't until March 2015 that I started religiously blogging, making friends in the blogging world.  And since then I've made more friends and found my blogging niche.

Advice to new bloggers |
Write for you, not for anyone else.  There are times I feel bad that I don't pick up as many readers as other bloggers, but then I remember on why I started blogging which is because I love writing. and I'm grateful to every reader I get on this blog of mine.

Don't stress about posting every single day.  Try to post as much as you can, but remember it's the quality over the quantity.  Remember this also falls in line with why you're posting.  I have a daughter, I have a husband, I am studying for my GRE for my masters, I am tired all of the time, I post as often as I can, but I also want to read my blogs.  So one more time included in another one, read, comment and follow other blogs, blogging is a community, make sure to be part of it.

and who I'm nominating |

I tried to pick people who would be able to do this, I know some of y'all do one type of posts and didn't want you to feel obligated to do so.  I also didn't pick anyone that Julie already nominated.

Saturday, September 12, 2015

so why sophie?

Why Sophie?  If you're a follower of this blog or even new to this blog, you may have noticed that the blog is Sundays with Sophie.  And while I've talked about why it's sundays with sophie here and here , I don't think I've sat down and explained why we named our child Sophie.

Oh and just to add before I start, it is Sophie , not short for Sophia, it's just Sophie.

While we expected to have a boy (every woman in his direct line has had a boy), I knew we were having a girl.  I just knew it.  Still we picked out a boy and a girl name.  Sophie wasn't our first pick for a girl actually.  It was another name, but that other name isn't important.  I wanted a family name, but in my actual family we didn't have that many girls, so we were having a tough time picking a name that wasn't actually already currently in use.  And then when I was at work, I heard a mother call her daughter and I knew it immediately that was the name I wanted for her.

And then I asked my mom if anyone in our family was named Sophie and she mentioned my grandfather's mother was.  My grandfather was and will always be important to me.  I spoke about why here , so it meant a lot to me for Sophie to have that name.

So that's reason number 1:  Sophie after my great grandma.

Reason number 2: Sophie from Howl's Moving Castle .  Anyone see this movie?  Yeah, it's the one where I fell in love with Christian Bale's voice.  Yes I fell in love with a voice.  I didn't even know he was in Batman.  Sophie in the movie was a brave young woman, and honestly a woman I admired, animated or not.  And I love the creator Hayao Miyzaki .

And lastly, reason number 3: Sophie Kinsella is one of my favorite authors, I loved her book Remember Me the most.

We couldn't imagine her not being Sophie.

Thursday, September 10, 2015

fashion day

I'll be the first admit I'm not a fashion blogger, and this blog usually won't focus on fashion, however for today we will move to the fashion world.  Just for today :)

P.S. this was the end of a work day, and I was tired and the dress looked worse for wear.  It looked a lot better in the morning.


I was given a custom piece by eshakti for free in exchange for an honest review.  I hadn't heard of this company until Mattie reviewed her picks from them.  They then reached out to me about reviewing one of their pieces.  This is my first time ever reviewing a product, and I was so excited, far more excited than I should admit (if excitement could be compared to eating a pint of ice cream, than I just ate a pint of ice cream).

The greatest strength of this company could be seen as it's downfall.  They have a huge selection and everything can be customized to fit to your shape.  Which is perfect for me, since I have well kind of an odd body shape.  I have this ailment called hips and boobs after I got pregnant even though I'm so so petite meaning I have to work around finding clothes that fit right.  However, having a huge selection means it takes time deciding exactly what you want.  It actually took me 9 days to pick out a dress to even review!  Far too long, people.
And yes, the first picture was me actually looking at the neighbors looking at me standing in front of our house like I'm starting the first day of school (even if the other picture came in front).

No dress review is complete without pictures of my child wanting to be in there.


Of course I tried to be like all of the other fashion bloggers out there, I give my self a C plus on the whole pictures.  Sorry, they won't be as fancy as other my other fashion bloggers out there ( Ashley , Darcy , I'm looking at you).


Here is the dress I picked out.  I think I must have forget my body shape when picking out this dress.  Remember I have hips....and this dress clings like nobody's business.  So I hiked this bad boy up added a colorful belt (because I couldn't find the black one I wanted with it) and made it fit me, well mostly.

the likes |
has pockets
has a collar
cotton/spandex make, for stretch

the dislikes |
too fitted at the cuff for me*
dress felt a little fitted across the chest**
pocket flaring***

*the cuffs didn't fit on my arms without being unbuttoned.
**despite being customized and measurements being sent in.
***the pockets flared out a lot making me look like I had some serious muffin top going on, which I didn't like.

At the end of the day?  would I order from them again?  Probably so, but I would probably pick a safer choice, something that wasn't as fitted all over, to hide those problem spots, but to also have something that isn't as fitted in the arms.  I love wearing dresses and I do roll up my sleeves a lot to show off my tattoo, but I didn't like how in this dress it was a forced choice since the cuffs were so dang tight.

I do find them kind of pricey though.  I looked up the original price of this dress $64.95!  They do have lots of promos and your first customization is free, so that helps on the price, but it is a little steep for me to regularly be ordering from them.  However, that doesn't mean I won't order from them again, I just need to sit down and find another dress I like :)

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

saving money tips


One of the biggest things about having a kid is saving money.  Kids are expensive, no kidding, just a pack of diapers $36 that'll last about two weeks maybe more if we're lucky.  I should mention it's 124 count pack.  And while it doesn't sound like much, $72/month ends up being about $860 a year, which once again doesn't sound like much, but adds up quickly especially if we're buying more than that in a month.

We try to save everywhere we can on everything, from baby related items, to clothes, to bags, to food, to whatever we can.  While I'm not a couponer (should think about it for the zombie apocalypse), I do look for coupons.  Here are some of the things I do to save money.  If you don't care about saving money, than I would just skip this post.

And while originally there was 23 ways, I added in one more....so it's really 24!  Bonus for you!

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amazon mom | Bundled with Amazon prime, you get all of the benefits of Amazon prime plus 20% off diaper subscriptions. Amazon mom isn't purely made for mothers (don't think you need a child for it, it's just catered for mothers, I mean who buys diapers for fun?)  They raised their price up to $99 (from $79) a year, which may seem expensive but for what you get for it, it's worth it.  Besides you're paying about 27¢ a day.


and if you're feeling really nice, you can actually share these benefits with another member using Amazon household , which essentially links the two accounts together so that they can have access to everything at the same time.  I did this with my mom and she splits the costs of the Amazon mom with me, meaning I only pay $50 - score!  Or you can just share the benefits in a similar fashion but doesn't link the accounts together.  I can't find the link to just share the links, but it's on Amazon.

Or if you want to save even more money, you can use Amazon student if you're currently a student at college (need a verifiable .edu email address):

You get a trial period of 6 months!  6 months!  The trial for Amazon prime is 30 days....  It's also half the cost at $49 a year.

amazon subscribe and save | Yes, another Amazon benefit that stems from the prime is the subscribe and save items.  For me, they have a variety of items that we use everyday for Sophie and for ourselves.  Diapers, baby wipes, baby food (which we're weaning out), paper towels, toilet paper, lysol wipes, etc.  All of which are cheaper than at our local stores.  Many stores both online and in person provide a per unit cost (10¢ per oz.) and that's what what you use to price check.  As I'm the budgeter (totally not a word) in the family I price check and found that most of the items that we buy are cheaper on Amazon.  what you get with Amazon subscribe and save:


amazon pantry | I only added this on because of the fact that some of the items are cheaper through Amazon pantry and not the a regular store, however the flat $5.99 shipping does bother some.  I've used it a few times and liked it, but it's not something I use regularly.  I usually use Amazon pantry for non-perishable items.  I wouldn't use this as a replacement grocery store.

amazon trade in | There are several places to trade in phones, such as gazelle , but the nicest thing about Amazon's trade in program is that there are several categories that you can trade back in (books, electronics, etc).  I personally used this for trading back in old iPhones and textbooks.  You select the item you want to ship back, its condition, and if Amazon should ship it back to you if it doesn't fit the condition you originally chose.



ebates | All I ever do is online shopping, so why not get some money back for it?  Ebates has perecentages of what money they'll give back and for what.  Make sure to start at ebates.  in order to receive the money back the "shopping trip" needs to start through ebates.  You get money back every three months.  Along with this, it also has coupons to stores.

splender | While I haven't personally used it yet, someone else told me of this site.  I don't think it's as big as ebates, it may not be as worthwhile as ebates but still check it out and use it.  I'm adding it on to the list because it's similar to ebates.

retail me not | since I online shop a lot, I'm always looking for coupons or promo codes to save on shipping or discounts.  Several of the past places I've shopped at I've gotten 20% my total order and free shipping!  That's worth it to me!  Combined with ebates, it's saving all around.  They have several stores on there, the last one I used was Forever 21.

winn dixie fuel perks and winn dixie baby club | not all states have Winn Dixie, but their fuel perks program is really great for us.  We can use some of the deals they provide at the store (such as buy 2 for $5 and get 5 cents off the gallon).  I haven't lately, but there have been several times that I've paid absolutely nothing at the gas station because of the fuel perks and it's only what we pay for normally at the store.  And they have a baby club, perfect for if your a mom :) I get coupons every month relating to baby items.

netflix or redbox | Kyle and I notorious for missing movies when they come out, but instead of buying the movie, we either wait for it to come out on netflix or we check redbox.  Netflix streaming only is $7.99, and redbox is usually is about $1.50 for us, however I heard they're raising their prices to $2.  We watch netflix every single day, I know I watch at least 3-4 hours of netflix when I'm home and blogging.  So for us, it's well worth the price.

DIY | when all is said and done, DIY (do it yourself) instead of buying it.  I'm so guilty of buying instead of trying to make it first.  Or I start a billion DIY projects and end up failing.

eBay | remember this bag ?  Would you believe I got it from eBay for $89 instead of the regularly priced $145?    I got it for that price because someone had written $89 in the pocket.  Doesn't even bother me, and for carrying it around for a year?  Well worth the money,  HOWEVER, be smart about buying on eBay.  a few things to focus on;

seller history - how long have they been a seller?  A month?  A year?  Several years?
seller reviews - is the feedback positive or negative?  How many positive to negative?  If a seller has 20,000 positive, but 10,000 negative, that's still 1/3 negative, which to me is too much.
negative feedback - how recent was the negative feedback?  If a seller had negative feedback when they first started but have since only had positive, and they've been selling for years, I take it like a grain of salt.
seller responsiveness - got a question about the product they're selling?  How do they respond to you?  Rude, nice?  Helpful?

All of these are important when buying off of eBay.

And here are the non related website saving tips.

thrift shops | instead of buying your clothes new, consider second hand.  While many clothes of mine are new (because of my petite sizing), most are actually from thrift shops and most of Sophie's are too.  All of us wear hand me down clothing as well.  Even Kyle!  Why pay full price for something that's been worn once and is still in great condition?  We usually look for more boutique shops because around here it's a guarantee that it's been worn once only.  Same thing with toys.  A good chunk of Sophie's toys are from other kids who passed them down to here.

clothing exchanges | Got lots of clothes you don't wear?  Many exchange places will either take your clothes and sell them for you (they take a percentage) or you can see if they'll do a flat out exchange of clothes.  Or see if you can sell them using varagesale or a local facebook group.

paychecks | one of the first things I do whenever we get our paychecks in is not go spend it (I wish!) on clothes or food, it's actually move 20% of the check to our savings account and it's like that money never existed.  Depending on how much you make, and how much you put away, you could easily save $5000 in one year!  (that's if you're making $15/hr, times a 40 hour work week, removing 15% for taxes, medicaid and social security).

cut the cable | this leads back to using netflix or redbox.  I haven't had cable for over 5 years now, and haven't missed it for a bit!  Many of the shows I watched I can get on Netflix.  And with cable costs rising, it's just not worth it for us.  However, we don't ever see sports, or news, which for some is a deal breaker.

get a library card | for my readers out there! Most places they're free!  And then you can just rent the book instead of buying it.  And for me, I like having an actual book to read, not just a kindle in my hand.  I especially want Sophie to have one when she gets older (right now she just likes eating the book).

buy off season | sounds crazy right?  Wrong!  I buy all of my summer clothes after the summer has ended and the clothes are on clearance.  Same thing for all of my winter clothes.  Sorry I'm cheap #notsorry.

shop on holiday steals | like on Labor day, black Friday, etc.  black Friday is when I do all of my Christmas shopping.

shop in the kid's sections | if you're like me than you have little feet.  A good portion of the shoes I wear are straight up from the kid's section.  No shame.  Most of them you can't even tell honestly. I quit shopping in the kid's sections for clothes after I got pregnant.  I picked up this ailment called hips after getting pregnant.

generic brands | almost every store has their own generic brand which is usually the EXACT same as the brand name.  Don't get caught up in the brand name of the product.  Seriously Kirkland anything works all the time, their bacon especially.

buy in bulk | this is kind of what I use Amazon subscribe & save and Amazon pantry for.  I buy trash bags, paper towels and toilet paper all in bulk.  Kyle says I have a paper product addiction.  Not true, so we have 96 rolls of toilet paper.

consider paying loans off sooner | any type of loan has interest and with interest comes with more money paid to the lender in the end.  We're currently adding an extra $100 on my car payments every month and it will cut the loan time by one year!  Incredibly important seeing as had I kept on the original track of paying my car off, I would have paid over $3,500.00 the original sale price.  Normally I would consider paying it off sooner, but we also have a mortgage so we can't pay off the car loan as quickly as I would like.